By Rachel Swalin
Think before you speak
When you find out someone has breast cancer, it can be hard to know what to say. Even if you have the best of intentions, it's easy to blurt out something that's less-than-helpful. "People don't mean to be insensitive," says Alyson Moadel, PhD, director of the psychosocial oncology program at Albert Einstein College of Medicine in the Bronx, New York. "The news just scares them, and they don't know the right thing to say." While not every person will object to all of the following phrases, it's probably best to err on the side of caution and try to avoid these.