Saturday, September 12, 2009

Laugh at Yourself

Everytime I began a new stage of cancer treatment--chemo, surgery, radiation--I would get another round of telephone calls, cards and gifts from family and friends. Conversations would begin with heavy concern: How are you holding up? Are you REALLY Okay?

After I lost my hair, I told them the benefits of no hair styling maintenance--it takes 15 minutes less to get ready for work in the morning! And the way I disguised my bald head, what with the hats, the earrings, the sunglasses--people just took me for some over-the-top fashionista anyway. When the Dunkin' Donuts gals told me to Work It Girl, I replied: Hey, when you're bald, you've gotta pull out all the stops!

Right before my first mastectomy, my uncle called and asked how I felt. I replied: I guess I'm going to have to give up that dream of becoming a stripper. He got a good laugh over that one. I relayed stories to family and friends about how I used breast cancer to my advantage. Like the time a cop pulled me over. I pulled back my wig to give him a peek of my bald head and said, please officer, I am late for my chemo appointment, I have cancer. He didn't give me a ticket and let me go.

That's what you call pulling out your Platinum Cancer Card. When I was digging for money to get coffee one day and clearly looked frazzled, I commented to no one in particular: I have cancer! The women standing behind me immediately stepped up to the counter and said, I'll pay. Okay, so I milked it  for what it was worth. It was actually a bit fun.

The point is, I tried to see some humor in the situation. It's a great coping mechanism. I had gone my whole life without spending a night in the hospital and suddenly within a year I had three major surgeries. But there was no point in whining about it. So I decided to enjoy the attention and look at the situation from a lighter point of view. Perhaps that's why everyone said I had such a great attitude. They tell you, one of the best ways to battle cancer is to remain positive. I did that by keeping my humor. Trust me, it works!

Since Breast Cancer Awareness month is right around the corner, why not give to an organization that fights breast with a light attitude: SaveThe Ta Tas. Buy yourself or a friend a T-Shirt with the Save The Ta Tas logo. You will be contributing to the fight against breast cancer while giving people a good laugh when they see what your T-Shirt says. Now that's the fighting spirit!

3 comments:

  1. Marcy -
    Thanks so much for sharing your blog with me ... and with everyone else. Attitude is everything and you are a shining example of what life is all about ... making the most of every moment no matter what it is. But, I've had the pleasure of knowing that for many years. Shine on! Love, Karen Soucy

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  2. Marcy -
    Thanks so much for sharing your blog with me ... and with everyone else. Attitude is everything and you are a shining example of what life is all about ... making the most of every moment no matter what it is. But, I've had the pleasure of knowing that for many years. Shine on! Love, Karen Soucy

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  3. Hi Marcy: Trish sent me the link for your wonderful, informative and caring blog on your breast cancer story. I am grateful and impressed with what you are sharing. This is wonderful information for those dealing with breast cancer and those who are cancer free (knowing that we are all vulnerable to this disease at any time.) There is much to be learned from someone who cares enough about others to be brave. To lend a hand, a bit of information, to pave the way for another women -- is a GIFT. I plan to check in frequently and let others know of your beautiful piece of work. I wish you continued healing and love. Your high school friend -- Lynn

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