Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Transparency

One of the newest buzz words these days is the term, transparency.

Throughout the past three months leading up to yesterday's election, politicians kept yelling: we need TRANSPARENCY in this current administration!!! It seemed like they wanted to stick the word on a badge and pin it to their lapel. By doing so, that would let voters know instantly this guy was trustworthy. And that alone is good reason to route for his team.

In the dictionary transparency means: Lack of hidden agendas and conditions, accompanied by the availability of full information required for collaboration, cooperation, and collective decision making. In short, full disclosure--regardless of good or bad consequences that disclosure may reveal.

Sounds good to me. I recently met with someone and decided to be transparent regarding my breast cancer. Up until then my feeling about my double mastectomy has been: what someone doesn't know won't hurt them. But now I'm finding that you gain power by being transparent.

How's that? When you tell someone what the real deal is--good or bad--their reaction is like a litmus test that reveals their true character. If they are taken aback and push away--now you know that person isn't worth your time--you can walk away BEFORE you invest too much energy on the situation.

By the same token, if they react in a way that you consider positive--you may find a person that's really worth getting to know. After all, you can't always judge a book by its cover. To my delight, that's what happened to me. Someone from my past that I had overlooked about 10 years ago, has reappeared--thanks to finding me through this very blog.

When we reconnected, I discovered this person has grown personally, professionally and emotionally. His comment about me being a breast cancer survivor was: "I always knew you were an amazing women, but now you're so much more amazing for how you handled what you've gone through." For me, that was the deal clincher. I knew right then and there this was someone I REALLY want to get re-aquainted with.

So you see, those politicians knew what they were talking about. Transparency is a good thing. It can bring some unexpected gifts into your life.

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