Saturday, February 26, 2011

What Every Woman Should Have And Know


1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you've come.

2. Enough money within your control to move out and rent a place on your own, even if you never want or need to.

3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your
dreams wants to see you in an hour.

4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you're not ashamed to be seen carrying.

5. A youth you're content to move beyond.

6. A past juicy enough that you're looking forward to re-telling it in your old age.

7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age and some money set aside to help fund it.

8. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.

9. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.

10. A good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.

11. Eight matching plates, wineglasses with stems and a recipe for a meal that will make your guests feel honored.

12. A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded.

13. A feeling of control over your destiny.

14. A skin care regime, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don't get better after 30, and all those other facets of life that do get better.


1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.

2. How you feel about having kids.

3. How to quit a job, break-up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

5. How to kiss a man in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn't like to happen next.

6. How to have a good time at a party you'd never choose to attend.

7. How to ask for what you want in a way that would make it most likely you'll get it.

8. That you can't change the length of your calves, the width of
your hips or the nature of your parents.

9. That you childhood may not have been perfect, but it's over.

10. What you would and wouldn't do for love or more.

11. How to live alone, even if you don't like it.

12. Who you can trust, who you can't, and why you shouldn't take
it personally.

13. Where to go - be it your best friend's kitchen table or a
charming inn hidden in the woods - when your soul needs soothing.

14. What you can and can't accomplish in a day, a month, and a year.

15. Why they say life begins at 30.

Erma Bombeck's Words of Wisdom

My cousin Pat emailed this to me this morning and I thought I would share it with you.

(written after she found out she was dying of cancer).

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you' More 'I'm sorry's.'

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute, look at it, and really see it . . live it and never give it back.

Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what. Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Do Something

On this lazy Sunday afternoon, I was trolling through my Comcast On Demand movies and came across this documentary of a breast cancer survivor, entitled 1 A Minute. The title takes its cue from the fact that worldwide, a woman dies of breast cancer once every minute. In the United States, a woman dies of breast cancer once every 13 minutes.

Definitely watch this movie if you are in the throws of breast cancer treatment. You will relate to the film maker's journey and it will give you hope. If you are a breast cancer survivor like me, watch this movie to be reminded how fortunate you are to be alive. But more than that, watch this movie to mobilize yourself and do something to fight breast cancer.

The movie talks a lot about the misconceptions of how women get breast cancer. Unlike previous medical naysayers, the majority of women are not pre-disposed to the get the disease because of their heredity. In fact, most of us, like me, got breast cancer due to environmental causes. The frustrating part is what part of envionment caused it. The water? The air? The food I ate? That alone is cause for us to question our environment regulations about our water, our landfills and air quality. For example, is it an accident that there are "hot spots" of breast cancer in Long Island that have tons of land fills?

At the end of the movie, the film maker implores us breast cancer survivors to do something. Whether it's raising money, writing to our congress men about environmental regulations, or supporting others going through breast cancer, it is our responsibility to give back. I am re-committed to do more than walk the Susan G. Komen race and write my blog. I KNOW the environment caused my breast cancer. That's where I want to do something. I hope you find a way to give back was well.

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Treasure Your Health

I got a wicked cold about 10 days ago that knocked me off my feet. Just when I thought I was through the worst of it, I woke up in the middle of the night to a throbbing ear ache, and muffled hearing. I was convinced my ear drum ruptured since I had ruptured my left ear drum twice before. It was scary not hearing, so I wasted no time going to the doctor.

It so happens I have an ear infection and have to take antibiotics for 10 days. When I was undergoing chemotherapy I had gotten an ear infection in that same ear after I went swimming in the pool. Considering that many people end up in the emergency room for some infection or the other while going through chemo, I considered myself lucky.

But this whole incident reminds me once again that my immune system just isn't what it used to be. When I jumped in a car to go riding with a colleague that was hoarse from the same cold, it didn't occur to me that I was a sitting duck to catch it. My doctor gave me a flu shot yesterday, but I should have been more vigilant and asked for it in November.

It's hard to admit that you're health isn't as rock solid as it used to be. I was told by my doctors that the chemo and radiation I underwent would most certainly impact my health long after the cancer was cured. Lesson learned? Do not deny yourself rest! Take your vitamins and eat well. Exercise! In short, take care of your health!

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Change Happens

"Adapt To Change Quickly: The quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you can enjoy new cheese."--Who Moved My Cheese? By Spencer Johnson, MD

I just finished my first week working for a new employer. During the first two days I went through the usual nerve-racking adjustments of getting used to a different corporate culture and new environment. I believe there was a moment when I thought: I was so comfortable at my old job, what was I thinking?

But by Thursday,there was no doubt in my mind that I made the right decision. Like many other industries, the internet has impacted traditional venues for advertising. That's why I chose to work for a company that offers compelling internet advertising packages. As I went through this career transition, I kept thinking of the book, Who Moved My Cheese? The book is a parable of two mice that anticipated change and fearlessly ran toward a new direction, and two mice that sat stuck in denial over how change hurt their food supply. They refused to do anything and the world as they knew it fell apart.

It would be easy for me to stay put for fear my breast cancer would come back again. My former employer treated me very well during my battle with cancer and chances are they would have treated me well if I got sick again. It would have been easy for me to stay because of my age. In 11 years, I will be eligible for retirement. But I chose not to let those factors keep me from making changes, which will force me to grow. Like the book says, it's never good when you get too comfortable.

Before I started my job, I took a quick trip to Palm Beach, Florida to visit family and friends. Wouldn't you know, at the airport in White Plains I ran into my breast surgeon Mary Pronovost and plastic surgeon Dr. Anke Ott-Young. They were on their way to a breast cancer symposium in Washington D.C. They both commented that I looked great, and asked when I planned on getting a check-up with them again. I replie: Do I have to do that so soon? Dr. Pronovost looked at Dr. Ott and said, "Clearly, she's moved on." I took that as a compliment. Then it occured to me, I was so busy getting a new job, traveling and carrying on with life that it had been awhile since battling breast cancer dominated what I did everyday. Thank God for change.