Monday, October 24, 2011

Being There

I just spent a magical weekend in Celebration, Florida to partake in the festivities of my friend Allison's daughter's wedding. It was clear my friend and her daughter, Elizabeth, paid attention to every detail because from start to finish the food, the music and the conversation were all amazing.

If you have read any of my past blogs, you may know that my friend Allison and I lost touch for 15 years. But thanks to Facebook, we reconnected last year.  I had Allison's baby shower when she was pregnant with Elizabeth, I remember her as a tiny infant, and a cute little girl. So there was no way I was going to miss seeing her walk down the aisle.

Sure, I could have justified not going because of the expense. But in my opinion, what better way to spend money than on wonderful memories that mark major life events? After my battle with cancer was over, I vowed I would never miss a wedding, a reunion, or a funeral of a close family or friend. And I do my best to be around for as many birthdays as I can.

If there is one thing I've learned after getting cancer its this: Being there for others matters. Of course its easy to be there for joyous moments, but I was there on several occasions with my brother to see his doctors and stand by him when he came out of surgery. Life is about give and take. I give to those I love when they are in need.  And expect them to be there for me when I need them too.

For me, one of the highlights of the weekend was when the beautiful bride, Elizabeth, said to me: "Thank you for coming to my wedding. But thank you even more for coming back into my mother's life. It has given her great joy to have you as her friend again and for that I am truly grateful to you."

Being there for someone feels so good.

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