Saturday, April 27, 2013

Thanks For Your Support

One of my co-workers, whose sister is battling metatastic breast cancer, has organized the very first Komen Connectictut walk held in our backyard: Westport, Fairfield County. Of course, when I found out about her team, The Fighting Irish, I knew I had to get on board.
I started fundraising by sending out an email blast and posting my Komen participation page on Facebook. Lo and behold, within two days I exceeded my fundraising goal. I also helped my team put its fundraising goal over the top! I can't believe how quickly family and friends jumped in to help with this worthy cause.

Here's a shout out to all those who gave:

My dear friend of many years, Maggie Zakka
My childhood friend Trish Campbell
My Aunt Sue
My cousin and his wife: Tim and Maria Davidson

My new friend who's generosity was huge: Maxine Sheetz
My old neighbor from Minnesota: Jill Bowman
My dear friend and her family whose mother died of breast cancer: Karen Soucy
My former co-worker and long distance buddy: Molly Phillips
And Mom.

Thank you all for making my fundraising efforts a success!

Thursday, April 25, 2013

Help Me Raise Money For Komen Connecticut!

Welcome to My 2013 Komen Connecticut Race for the Cure Westport Page!

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60 percent of goal achieved.
Goal: $250.00
Achieved: $150.00
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The Komen Connecticut Race for the Cure                          

I am participating in the Susan G. Komen Connecticut Race for the Cure, Westport with the hopes of raising as much money as possible to provide for breast cancer education, screening, treatment and research programs right here in Connecticut. While much progress has been made, many women are still going without the services they need.

In celebration of the 1st Komen Connecticut Race for the Cure in Westport, I am joining other participants in asking my friends and family to donate $25 or more, and to forward this page to their own family and friends to raise even more donations.

Please consider making a donation in support my participation in the Race for the Cure and help eliminate breast cancer as a life threatening disease! Use the buttons on the left to make a donation directly to my efforts.

You might also consider registering to participate in the Race for the Cure and becoming a fundraiser yourself! For more information about how to Register - visit and click on "Race for the Cure".

You may use Visa or Mastercard to donate directly through my personal page. Or, you may mail a check payable to "Komen Connecticut" to Komen Connecticut, 74 Batterson Park Road, Farmington, CT 06032.

Please pass this note to family and friends that might wish to join this important cause.

Thank you!

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Adjusting To Physical Changes

Adjusting to Changes in Your body and self-image

Courtesy of the American Cancer Society

Cancer and its treatment can cause physical changes. Some people feel insecure about how these changes affect their body and their self-image.

Surgery can change the way you look. Other treatments can affect how you feel. Side effects from cancer treatment, such as weight loss or weight gain, hair loss, and skin changes can also change the way you look. Fatigue can make it harder for you to care for your appearance.
The type of treatment, the drugs and their dosages, and the schedule of treatment all have an impact on the side effects you have. Just how bad the side effects are can vary from person to person. The same treatments may cause side effects in some people and not in others. Be sure to let your doctor and nurse know which side effects you have, if any, and how bad they are.

Your health care team can help manage side effects when they know how treatment is affecting you physically and emotionally. In early cancer treatment, the treatments sometimes cause more illness or discomfort than the cancer itself. Ask your doctor what side effects you should expect and how long they’re likely to last. Also, find out which side effects you need to report right away. You will need to know how to get in touch with your doctor after regular office hours if needed.

Some people find it hard to be hopeful when their treatment makes them feel bad and look different. People with cancer can become frustrated when they do everything right but it doesn’t help, or when treatment must be delayed because their body is unable to handle any more. Sometimes changes in your mood are caused by certain medicines, while other times they may be linked to the stress of coping with cancer and treatment. It’s normal to have ups and downs during cancer treatment.

Body changes from cancer treatment can range from hair loss to the loss of a limb. These kinds of changes can be hard to handle because others can see them. Many people who lose hair choose to wear scarves, wigs, or hats. Some people choose artificial limbs(prostheses) and reconstructive surgery after cancer surgery. Both short- and long-term solutions like these draw less attention to or help hide a person’s physical differences.

Sean, cancer survivor: I had 2 surgeries; the first to remove the cancerous testicle and the second to remove lymph nodes in my abdomen. The lymph node surgery affected how I feel about my body and self-image more than the first surgery. I’m more self-conscious about the scars on my abdomen. I was given the option of reconstruction of the testicle after my first surgery but I wasn’t interested.”
When making difficult decisions, it often helps to talk with others who have had the same type of reconstructive surgery or wear the same type of prosthesis. Ask your surgeon if he or she is able to share photos that show actual results of reconstructive surgery.

Check with your health insurance company about coverage for reconstructive surgery or prostheses. If you do not have health insurance, your hospital social worker may be able to help you find other ways to pay for it. Insurance coverage can be limited either by dollar amount or the number of prostheses (for example, mastectomy bras and breast forms) you can purchase in a certain amount of time.

Saturday, April 6, 2013


Superficiality:  Shallowness, lack of depth, lack of substance, emptiness, triviality.

The older I get the more I embrace the old adage: "You can't judge a book by its cover." In order to understand the character of a person, you've got to sit back and watch how they act.

I learned this lesson big time in my early '40s. Back in 1998, I started dating this guy that seemingly had it all. He was handsome. He had a good job. I felt like he was a knight in shining armor riding towards me in his midnight-blue Mercedes sedan, clad in a Brooks Brothers suit.

Everyone agreed that I had hit the jackpot. He impressed my family, friends and even my boss. But as time went on, cracks started opening on his shiny facade. He lived with his parents in a run-down Tudor home in Queens, New York. They were broke and he had to support them. He was more than $200,000 in debt. He was arrogant and I got the feeling he was always eyeing the possibility of finding someone better.

When I pulled away because of his pretentiousness, he asked me to marry him. I wanted to know where we would live. He replied: "With my parents of course." That didn't go over with me very well. I quickly realized there was no room for me in his life because he had his hands full taking care of other people. It was time to cut my losses and move on.

Three months after I walked away, along comes this rough around the edges guy that picks me up on a date in a beat-up car. He didn't have the style and class like the previous guy, but it turns out he had so much more. He lived in a beautiful home along the river. He was kind and generous to all of his friends and family. He was a cheapskate, and because of that, he was a millionaire.

There were days when he looked like a homeless person--the summer we started dating he wore the same T-shirt for two months. But he was kind to the core. When I was ready to sell my condo, he invited me to live with him rent free so that I could take my time to look for a new place.

This guy didn't impress me in the beginning, but as time went on, he was the true jackpot. He helped me get the home I live in today. The other guy just thought about himself.

It just goes to show what you see on the surface is shallow and means nothing. You have to look deeper to discover the truth.